Consistency is the Key to Overcoming Tantrums

When I hear the phrase “Terrible 2’s” my first thought is to encourage Consistency. I talk with so many parents of toddlers challenged by the “terrible 2’s” or temper tantrums in toddlers. It’s important to remember that during the toddler phase of development which lasts from roughly 1 year old to 3 years of age, children are going through one of the most significant stages of emotional development. They often lack the words to express their blossoming feelings and big emotions which can lead to significant frustration. This frustration leads to what we typically refer to as tantrums and meltdowns. 

How to handle tantrums: 

• It is our job as parents to model the “calm” for them when they are struggling.

• Ignore the tantrum. This shows them that this behavior does not get them what they are seeking

• Keep your child safe. Always keep an eye on them and ensure they’re not hurting themselves in any way

• As soon as your child calms down, even for a moment, reward that “calm” with praise, a smile and a hug

• Once your child is calm, offer help. Acknowledge that the big emotions are hard. 

• Be consistent with your expectations and handling tantrums in this way

It is also important to try to decrease the likelihood that a tantrum will happen. You can do this by maintaining a routine, giving choices and preparing  for transitions. 

Remember that consistency is the cornerstone of shaping your child’s behavior and helping them learn what is expected of them and how they can be successful. 

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